How to Date Men When You Hate Men

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The word means so many different things to different people, she surmises, it is essentially meaningless. In fact, it was originally inspired by a book I love (and that you should, too: Lorde tweeted about it): A Lover’s Discourse by Roland Barthes, a male human person who loved other male human people. I have, and love, many male family members: all of my siblings are boys, and there are seemingly thousands of them (there are five). Moreover, Hilary didn't lose because she was a woman (not alone) but because she was the wrong fucking candidate.

Also, I think that if you picked up a book with a title about hating men, you’re already pretty hip to the ubiquity of sexism and toxic masculinity.The real tensions between heterosexual desires and expectations and feminism—broad examples include sex, monogamy, marriage, childcare—are not easily made irrelevant through rules and deal-breakers. As she notes in another line that reads as if twice removed, having been cribbed from books for blog posts and tweets and now cribbed again for a book full of blog posts: “Honestly, it’s not the responsibility of the oppressed person to constantly explain the details of their oppression to their oppressor, and it’s not like oppressors don’t have the same Google everyone else does. Fifty-three percent of white women voted for Trump; we really need to have a group meeting and reevaluate our commitment to not being villains to everyone. I feel certain it is only a matter of time before he has the surgeon general release a glowing report on it!

She reckons that crushes are “not really about the person who is being crushed on at all” but rather “about using the idea of another person to figure out what you find important in a lover”. I’m going to be that person in their 30s who says something about someone in their 20s as if I am so removed from that time period: if you are in your 20s, most things make no sense, but thank sweet baby Jesus that Blythe Roberson’s How to Date Men When You Hate Men exists, and it’s something I wish I had during that time. Interspersed are comedy pieces that build to no particular point but that I included for fun and because the world needs to know that Tom Hanks is the villain of You’ve Got Mail. I recently started reading the book How to Date Men When You Hate Men by Blythe Roberson because I actually wanted to know, how do you do it?

And of course, there are men who I have kissed and cared about or who I am dying to kiss and care about. Or, if you want to be a kinder and more loving person, date someone with those attributes and they’ll show you the ropes. Darcy could be viewed as not very nice (which is a misconception and one of the central points of Pride and Prejudice but whatever - maybe it would have helped if she hadn't apparently just watched the movie but actually read the book), Austen's other male leads are true gentlemen. Barthes didn’t cover the specifics of a lot of stuff that I’m interested in, like trying to kiss a gender that is actively oppressing you, or, like: texting is hard. He also spent too much time on The Sorrows of Young Werther, which Roberson will “never” care about.